Our challenge is to submit to Christ, who submits to the Father, and to do that together.
It seems that we’ve opened the windows and doors of the Church to the culture in such an inclusive way since Vatican II that the inside seems like the outside. All homes are naturally exclusive with their walls, doors and windows. Even your car is exclusive until someone is invited to sit in it.
Consider a park shelter. It is very inclusive and open to whatever the wind blows in but who wants to live in one. It is by our very exclusiveness that we can be inclusive. Without it we have nothing to offer and nothing to invite someone into. We become a shelter for a time rather than a home for a lifetime.